Parenting the Love and Logic Way Session 6 ~ Guiding Children to Solve Their Own Problems and Teaching Kids to Complete Chores...Without Reminders and Without Pay
Hi Class,
Hi Class,
Seems likes it's been forever since we have met. Tomorrow will be discussing how to guide our kids to own and solve their own problems then go over strategies for chore completion, without nagging (Wow, what a novel idea ~ I need to take notes on this as well!!). Next, I plan to play a video on the power of joyful modeling, from the L & L Early Childhood Curriculum, which is particularly effective with younger children. Or as a review, we can also watch a video on giving effective choices and/or enforceable statements, depending on what the group is wanting more support on!
Why Chores??? Chores help kids know that they are important, needed and loved members of the family!
Some questions for you to ponder.....
What will leave our kids feeling better about themselves and their family?
What do you want them to believe about helping others?
What do you want them to believe about relationships?
What attitude do you want them to have to go to work each day?
In this session we will learn:
• Steps for getting resistant kids to do chores
• What to do if our kids refused to forget to do them
• Why chores help kids feel loved and needed
• Why is better to call chores "contributions"
• More ideas about raising happy and responsible kids
We will also go over how to handle contributions not getting done and look at effective versus ineffective consequences.
Effective consequences meet the following five guidelines:
1. They are logical.
2. They are provided with love.
3. They are enforceable.
4. They are preceded and provided with very few words.
5. When they are over, they are over.
During class, we will do a workbook exercise on effective versus ineffective consequences.
Looking forward to seeing you tomorrow morning! Love to hear any feedback on L & L CD's you have been listening to.....plus how your practicing your L & L skills has been going or not going. Remember, holidays, when everyone is off schedule, little routine and more factors to consider, such as additional family and/or friends is always challenging. Hang in there and reach out for support. You are not alone!! It takes a Village to be the Best Parent we can be:)
Parenting Food For Thought:
When we solve all of our children's problems, they become insecure and resentful.
When we guide them toward solving their own problems, they become secure and respectful.
Wise parents only step in when they are certain their child has a problem that's too big or dangerous to solve on their own.
Some questions for you to ponder.....
What will leave our kids feeling better about themselves and their family?
What do you want them to believe about helping others?
What do you want them to believe about relationships?
What attitude do you want them to have to go to work each day?
In this session we will learn:
• Steps for getting resistant kids to do chores
• What to do if our kids refused to forget to do them
• Why chores help kids feel loved and needed
• Why is better to call chores "contributions"
• More ideas about raising happy and responsible kids
We will also go over how to handle contributions not getting done and look at effective versus ineffective consequences.
Effective consequences meet the following five guidelines:
1. They are logical.
2. They are provided with love.
3. They are enforceable.
4. They are preceded and provided with very few words.
5. When they are over, they are over.
During class, we will do a workbook exercise on effective versus ineffective consequences.
Looking forward to seeing you tomorrow morning! Love to hear any feedback on L & L CD's you have been listening to.....plus how your practicing your L & L skills has been going or not going. Remember, holidays, when everyone is off schedule, little routine and more factors to consider, such as additional family and/or friends is always challenging. Hang in there and reach out for support. You are not alone!! It takes a Village to be the Best Parent we can be:)
Andrea
Andrea L Gooldy
Parent Educator and Coach
404-932-9393
