Parenting the L & L Way ~ Tomorrow Session 4 : Av

Evening L & L Parents,
Come find out tomorrow how we can actually gain more control by giving some of it away. I am anxious to hear how your last 2 weeks, or 3 weeks have been. Plus, if anyone has been listening to the CD's I have loaned out. I love hearing what you get from listening on your own. In Friday's session, we will learn more tips for setting limits without going to war. The main two benefits of giving choices :
1 - Doing so ups the odds of cooperation from our kids.
2 - It gives them plenty of decision making practice.

"When we try to hoard control, we lose it. When we share control, we gain it."

Please make note of our remaining session dates: May 2nd, May 13th and May 23rd
May 2nd : Session 5
May 23rd : Session 6
*** Extra session for make-up videos Tues May 13th ***

Rules for Providing Choices:
* Only give choices that fit your value system.
* Give 99% of choices when things are going smoothly.
* Give choices before your child becomes resistant.
* For each choice, give two options, each of which you like.
* Don't be afraid to say, "I usually get choices, but not this time."
* If your child doesn't choose very quickly, choose for him or her.

Some examples of effective choices:
> Will you be wearing your coat or carrying it?
> Are you going to take a shower or a bath?
> Will you be brushing your top teeth first or your bottom ones first?
> Do you want the blue sippy cup or the red one?
> Do you want to leave the playground in two mins or in five minutes?
> Do you prefer to walk next to me while we shop or sit in the shopping cart / stroller?
> I can pay for these clothes or you can pay for the designer ones. It's your choice.

"Never tell a stubborn child what to do.
Instead, describe what you are willing to do or allow."

Cheers,
Andrea