Hi Screamfree Moms ~
Looking forward to seeing you all, after our two week break, this Tuesday at 11am at Chris'. I'll be sending out an overview of our upcoming ScreamFree Parenting session tomorrow or Monday morning. The title of the session is Putting Your Oxygen Mask on First.
In the meantime, just try to be a tiny bit more patient and/or kind with yourself. Notice how you talk to yourself....is it in a critical or encouraging way. The better we treat ourselves, the better we will treat others, particularly our kids. I like the bamboo analogy of slow ,even unnoticeable, daily growth yet ultimately yielding amazing results over an extended period ~ who knew?!
So as Hal says below:
"When it comes to making any sort of lasting change, slower is oftentimes better..." Therefore instead of getting mad/frustrated at ourselves for our reactionary parenting style, take a deep breath or several and say "I'm working on it" or "next time I will be calmer". Quoting Chicken Little "Today is a New Day" has also given me a boost to recover / move forward, building on progress, rather than focusing on my mistakes. Let's keep supporting each other in taking baby steps and being realistic on how long lasting change actually takes:)
Andrea
From: The ScreamFree Institute <info@screamfree.com>
Date: Fri, 15 Apr 2011 03:00:05 -0500 (CDT)
To: <andreaparentcoach@gmail.com>
ReplyTo: The ScreamFree Institute <info@screamfree.com>
Subject: ScreamFree Tip of the Day: Bamboo Baby
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| Share with a Friend | April 15, 2011 | Here's your daily parenting tip from ScreamFree | | "Be not afraid of growing slowly, be afraid only of standing still." -Chinese proverb | | | | Hal's Take: The first step of lasting growth is to change your thinking about growth itself. Making small changes and being gentle with yourself in the process is your best bet to achieving the kind of difference you’re hoping to make. “Instant results” whether on the scale or in your home will only land you back where you don’t want to be – so think like a bamboo stalk. For the first two years after it is planted, no matter how much the gardener wants it to spread – and no matter how much care he gives it – the stalk will remain about the same. On the surface, nothing is really happening, but underground, the plant is developing shoots that will soon surface and spread like crazy. Once these shoots emerge, they have been clocked to grow up to 47” in a 24 hour period. When it comes to making any sort of lasting change, slower is oftentimes better. If you have overeaten and not exercised for 10 years, you cannot expect to change your habits and undo the damage in a couple of workouts. The same is true for parenting. If you are reversing not only years, but maybe decades of reactionary child rearing – going back to the way that you were raised – you have to be patient with yourself. Keep on keepin’ on and you’ll be amazed at where you end up. -Hal Runkel, LMFT, Author of ScreamFree Parenting and ScreamFree Marriage | |
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