Hello L & L parents,
I love these tool cards. And Love Positive Discipline. You can get get these tools on your iPhone via an app. Christy brought these cards into our class 2 Wks ago. This strategy works with spouses too, or anyone that is important to us!!! Giving our time shows that the receiver is a priority to us, particularly when we truly don't have an agenda, other than to be connected and find out how they are. So simple in theory, yet challenging to practice regularly, as with most things in life. Please let me know if anyone has success with closet listening, and/or how giving effective choices is going. You can also click below for a 90 second recording describing this concept.
Keep practicing:)
Andrea
Andrea L Gooldy
Andrea L Gooldy
Parent Educator and Coach
404-932-9393
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From: Positive Discipline <noreply@blogger.com>
Date: October 20, 2014 at 5:22:36 PM EDT
To: Andreaparentcoach@gmail.com
Subject: Positive Discipline with Dr. Jane Nelsen
Positive Discipline
Positive Discipline with Dr. Jane Nelsen
Posted: 20 Oct 2014 12:27 PM PDT
Have you ever tried talking with your children only to be frustrated by one word, unenthusiastic, totally bored responses? Many parents become discouraged when they ask their children, "How was your day?" and their children say, "Fine." Then they ask, "What did you do today?" The response is, "Nothing."
Try closet listening.
Closet listening means you find times to be near your children, hoping they will talk with you, but not being obvious about it. I tried this with my daughter, Mary, when she was a teenager. While Mary was getting ready for school, fixing her hair and makeup at the bathroom mirror, I would go in and sit on the edge of the tub. The first time I did this, Mary asked, "What do you want, Mama?" I said, "Nothing, except that I just want to spend a few minutes with you." Mary waited to see what would come next. Nothing did. She finished fixing her hair and makeup and said, "Bye, Mama."
I continued to do this every morning. It wasn't long before Mary got used to having me there. I didn't ask any questions, but before long, Mary would chat away about all the things that were going on in her life.
Children often feel interrogated. You may be ready to talk when your child isn't. Experiment by serving cookies without asking, "How was your day?" Just sit there. Perhaps children who resist questions will respond when you make yourself available and just listen.
Click on the link below to listen to Dr. Jane Nelsen talk about Closet Listening
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