Tomorrow, Fri Oct 17th, Session 4 : Avoiding Power-Struggles via Effective Choices at Springmont School @
915 AM
Morning L & L Parents,
Come find out tomorrow how we can actually gain more control by giving some of it away. Curious if anyone has been listening to the CD's I have loaned out. No pressure. Just pop in for a couple mins, when get a moment. I love hearing what you get from listening on your own. In Friday's session, we will learn more tips for setting limits without going to war. The main two benefits of giving choices :
1 - Doing so ups the odds of cooperation from our kids.
2 - It gives them plenty of decision making practice.
"When we try to hoard control, we lose it. When we share control, we gain it."
Please make note of our remaining session dates: Fri Dec 5th
Dec 5th : Session 5
*** Thinking about adding an Extra session in Nov since such a long break between sessions and to catch up since videos are so long ~ please let me know if interested, and if you are, if you can come on Mon morning Nov 3rd for the extra session as I already have the conference room reserved at Springmont for my next series. Or, if this does not work for the majority, I have another space we can meet at, on a Fri am, over in Perimeter area off Hammond & Peachtree Dunwoody Rd so about 3 to 4 miles from Springmont ***
Rules for Providing Choices:
* Only give choices that fit your value system.
* Give 99% of choices when things are going smoothly.
* Give choices before your child becomes resistant.
* For each choice, give two options, each of which you like.
* Don't be afraid to say, "I usually give choices, but not this time."
* If your child doesn't choose very quickly, choose for him or her.
Some examples of effective choices:
> Will you be wearing your coat or carrying it?
> Are you going to take a shower or a bath?
> Will you be brushing your top teeth first or your bottom ones first?
> Do you want the blue sippy cup or the red one?
> Do you want to leave the playground in two mins or in five minutes?
> Do you prefer you to walk next to me while we shop or sit in the shopping cart / stroller?
> Do you want me to change your diaper in your room or here in the living room?
> I can pay for these clothes or you can pay for the designer ones. It's your choice.
"Never tell a stubborn child what to do.
Instead, describe what you are willing to do or allow."
Cheers! So happy to finally have done cooler fall boot weather👢
Andrea
Andrea L Gooldy
Parent Educator and Coach
404-932-9393
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