From: Love and Logic Institute, Inc.
To: -AAndrea Gooldy
ReplyTo: Love and Logic Institute
Subject: Frustrated Preschoolers
Sent: Nov 24, 2010 1:22 PM
To receive email from Love and Logic Institute, Inc., add reply@loveandlogicnews.com to your safe sender list. View as Web Page Subscribe Send to a Friend Love and Logic Institute, Inc. Helping Raise Responsible Kids Since 1977™ When Preschoolers Get Frustrated Dear Andrea, Have you ever noticed how frustrated many small children get when they try to do something "big" and it doesn't work out? One parent commented to me, "Every time my three-year-old has trouble putting on her socks, reaching the soap in the bathroom, getting her zipper zipped, or anything else, she throws a huge screaming fit." It has to be horribly frustrating for little ones to find themselves struggling to do things that just aren't working out! It's also frustrating for parents to hear the screaming! In our home, we've tried all sorts of ineffective techniques, such as trying to do it for them, bossing them around about how they should do the task, and even screaming about their screaming. The technique that works like a charm involves the following five steps: Step One: Empathize. "Oh, that must be so frustrating." Step Two: Hand the problem back to your child. "What do you think you are going to do?" Step Three: Ask for permission to share some ideas. "Would you like to hear what other kids have tried?" Step Four: Give them three or four simple ideas and ask, "How will that work for you?" "Some kids decide… How will that work for you?" Step Five: Allow them to learn through experimentation. "Good luck. If you need any more ideas, let me know." Just the other day, our three-year-old was screaming because his toy "digger" wasn't digging the hard dirt in the garden. After he heard some solutions and decided to try it in his sandbox instead, he smiled from ear to ear. I guess that works better than getting frustrated! For more information about this technique check out our CD, Four Steps to Responsibility. Our goal is to help as many families as possible. If this is a benefit, forward it to a friend. Have a happy and safe Thanksgiving! Dr. Charles Fay If we have misspelled your name, or if this isn't you, please click here to correct. ©2010 Love and Logic Institute, Inc. All copyright infringement laws apply. Permission granted for photocopy reproduction and forwarding. Please do not alter or modify contents. For more information, call the Love and Logic Institute, Inc. at 800-338-4065. For helpful tips, special promotions, and event announcements, follow Love and Logic® on Twitter and become a fan on Facebook. Teachers and Parents Don't miss Dr. Charles Fay in Des Moines on Tuesday, 11/30. Register online or call 800-338-4065 for more information. Exclusive Member Discount Four Steps to Responsibility This week save 25% Discount price to Insider Club members only: $10.45 Regular Price $13.95 To shop our online store click on the link above, then "Add to Cart" and enter the coupon code "112410" Parenting Classes Visit this page to find an independent facilitator that teaches Love and Logic classes in your area. "Funny Parenting Stories" and "Funny Stories from the Classroom": amusing audios available for your listening pleasure, compliments of Love and Logic®. Visit this page to download and enjoy. Love and Logic Institute, Inc. • 800-338-4065 2207 Jackson St • Golden • CO • 80401 Shop Our Store | Visit Our Website | Forward to a Friend | Edit Your Profile | Subscribe Unsubscribe | Report Spam
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