Greetings to my New Year's Love and Logic class!
Looking forward to meeting you all this Tuesday evening, learning, and laughing together, and supporting one another. The sessions will start at 7pm, and be held in an office suite :
B210, 6160 Peachtree Dunwoody Rd Atlanta, GA 30328. Right down the street from Costco and Home Depot, towards Hammond Rd.
Once turn into office complex, go straight about 1/8 of a mile and B210 will be on the left, last door on the street. Just call me if have a problem 404-932-9393.
Please note that it Is completely fine if you arrive late or need to leave early. The important thing is you make it to the session if you can, even if only for half of it:)
Why learn how to be empathetic??
Because expressing empathy changes brain chemistry. It SOAKS up emotion allowing the recipient (our child, spouse, friend) to get through the
feeling instead of becoming defensive, seeking revenge or trying to escape. Empathy OPENS the heart and mind to Learning. Anger, lectures, warnings, and sarcasm CREATE fight, flight, or freeze. None of us learn too well from the consequences of our actions when we are "drunk on emotion." Empathy PREVENTS
our fight, flight, or freeze responses. And maintains and allows for relationship growth!
The title of session 1 is "Handling Misbehavior Without Breaking a Sweat." We will learn how to "Go brain dead." Then softly repeat a single Love and Logic one-liner, that you will choose during class that fits your personality.
Please think about which empathetic statement will best fit your personality, culture, etc. Here are some examples:
* "This is so sad"
* "Oh man. That's too bad."
* "What a bummer."
* "Oh dear."
* "That's never good."
* "This stinks."
* "Hmm....."
* "I see......"
* "Gosh, that's tough/frustrating/hard."
* "I don't know. What do you think?" (Better for older kids)
Some MORE benefits of delivering empathy BEFORE delivering consequences:
* Empathy makes the child's poor decision the "bad guy" while keeping the adult the "good guy."
* As a result, the child has a harder time blaming the adult for the problem.
* This forces him or her to look inside and to learn from the consequence. Your goal is to get your child in the "thinking mode" before doing anything else.
Next, please give some thought to a problem you would like to work on such as reducing whining, meltdowns, arguing, having to give repeated warnings, how to handle misbehavior in public, etc. We can touch upon at the beginning of the class, then discuss further following the videos, and workbook exercises.
The most successful parents:
* Take good care of themselves
* Set and enforce limits
* Hold their kids accountable for their misbehavior
* Do all of these things in a very a Loving way
* Know that kids are ready to start learning responsibility as soon as they are old enough to spit beets across the table
Most importantly, from this course, you will learn techniques that will:
* Allow you to discipline your kids without losing their Love & Respect
* Help you raise respectful & responsible kids
* Up the odds that the teenage years will be happy rather than horrific
* Make parenting Fun & Rewarding!
I know this is a lot of information to digest. We will have plenty of time to process and practice the new parenting strategies. Thank you for making this investment in yourself, your kids, and your family!
Andrea
"They say it Takes a Village to Raise a Child, but no one ever tells you where it is or how to get there."
Andrea L Gooldy, M.S.
Parent Educator, Coach and Workshop Facilitator
Independent Love and Logic Facilitator 'Early Childhood Parenting Made Fun!'
Certified Screamfree Parenting Leader
AndreaParentCoach@gmail.com
www.andreaparentcoach.com
Monday, January 13, 2014
Thursday, January 9, 2014
52 Week Parenting Tool Challenge Positive Discipline
Any one want to join me on this weekly parenting tool challenge for 2014?? This is an Awesome way to practice and improve our parenting tools, together. Scroll down to see list and to subscribe to the challenge via Positive Discipline website. Please let me know if you sign up! Happy New Year 🎉
This week's tool is:
'Extensive research shows that we cannot influence children in a positive way until we create a connection with them. It is a brain (and heart) thing. Sometimes we have to stop dealing with the misbehavior and first heal the relationship.
Connection creates a sense of safety and openness. Punishment, lecturing, nagging, scolding, blaming or shaming create fight, flight, or freeze. Now we know it is just brain science: children learn (grow, feel safe, thrive) best when they feel connection--or as Alfred Adler and Rudolf Dreikurs taught us, "a sense of belonging and significance".
I LOVE what Jane Nelson writes below about
supporting each other ~
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Positive Discipline with Dr. Jane Nelsen
52 Positive Discipline Parenting Tools in 52 Weeks
Posted: 04 Jan 2014 10:02 AM PST
Take the 52 Parenting Tools in 52 Weeks Challenge. This is a fun way to stay focused on Positive Discipline all year long.
We hope you will participate and post comments about your own experiences. You can get a copy of the Positive Discipline Parenting Tool Cards on the Positive Discipline Website and/or download the App for iPhone and Android. It would also be helpful to read a Positive Discipline Book during the year.
Together we can all improve our parenting skills and improve our relationships with our children. Click on the links below to read more about the individual Positive Discipline Tools.
Week 1 - Connection Before Correction
Week 2 - Encouragement
Week 3 - Listen
Week 4 - Family Meetings
Week 5 - Compliments
Week 6 - Routines
Week 7 - Special Time
Week 8 - Take Time for Training
Week 9 - Validate Feelings
Week 10 - Positive Time Out
Week 11 - Jobs
Week 12 - Mistakes
Week 13 - 3 R's of Recovery
Week 14 - Problem Solving
Week 15 - Limit Screen Time
Week 16 - Follow Through
Week 17 - Agreements
Week 18 - Focus On Solutions
Week 19 - Logical Consequences
Week 20 - Natural Consequences
Week 21 - Teach Children What to Do
Week 22 - Put Kids in the Same Boat
Week 23 - Allowances
Week 24 - Hugs
Week 25 - Wheel of Choice
Week 26 - Act Without Words
Week 27 - Understand the Brain
Week 28 - Back Talk
Week 29 - Winning Cooperation
Week 30 - Distract & Redirect
Week 31 - Decide What You Will Do
Week 32 - Practice
Week 33 - Empower Your Kids
Week 34 - Motivation
Week 35 - Kind and Firm
Week 36 - Pay Attention
Week 37 - Small Steps
Week 38 - Control Your Behavior
Week 39 - Sense of Humor
Week 40 - Silent Signals
Week 41 - Letting Go
Week 42 - Eye to Eye
Week 43 - Closet Listening
Week 44 - One Word
Week 45 - Show Faith
Week 46 - Break the Code
Week 47 - Avoid Pampering
Week 48 - Anger Wheel of Choice
Week 49 - Encouragement vs Praise
Week 50 - Limited Choices
Week 51 - Curiosity Questions
Week 52 - I Notice
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