Fwd: Ok to listen to recording with your kids!

Hello Class,

First of all, I included everyone's email on here so you can stay in touch, if any of you would like. I was Delighted that you all got along so well, shared, supported and brainstormed solutions. I am always so excited to see women helping women. We need each other particularly when it comes to parenting. I put the two reviewers, Heather and Miki, on copy too. Wish the class could have gone longer! I wanted to forward you this email about it being fine to let your children listen to the parenting cd's with you (especially when in the car altogether), even watch video clips, read out loud from parenting books....I, too, believe that our children will respect us more when they actually SEE us working on being a better parent! This parent educator, Debbie Godfrey, has a very helpful and information filled website so check it out if you have a moment. There are so many relevant articles and examples of challenges (not wanting to get ready in the morning, not wanting to eat, sibling fighting, how to be a family team, etc) that we touched on in our sessions. I haven't listened to her recording on power struggles, but based on the positive remarks especially from the mom regarding her 10 year old son, it sounds worth listening to. She is offering the recording for free until Dec 20th! I plan to listen, to at least a part of it, before the 20th.

Let me know if any of you find any empowering articles on here, or recordings, or anything else on any other parenting websites. Love to know what is inspiring to you. Lets keep our positive parenting conversation going! Additionally, I wanted to put a plug in about buying Love and Logic resources like the cd's, that I gave many of you, as holiday gifts, for baby showers, even for kid's birthdays, for the parents, as we know so many of our kids already have too much. Really, what a gift to give the children.....I wish someone had given my mom these parenting resources when I was younger. And my mom says, all the time, that she wished she had known about these resources when we were kids. You can go to the love and logic website at www.loveandlogic.com to peruse all of the books, cd's, dvd's  or you can go to Amazon to order. Please reach out with any questions you have about the best resources for a certain age. I have listened to over 10 of the cd's, read or reviewed several of the books and also watched some of the dvd's for parents.

 

I will leave you with one of Debbie Godfrey's quotes from article on the next generation not needing parenting classes....what a hopeful way to look at how we can touch future generations, not just our own children. "If you are raising a young child now, one thing you are doing is modeling what type of parent your child is going to be. Do you like the way you parent?  Do you feel confident?  Do you think your child is learning the things that are important to you?  If you did not have those things growing up, then you may not have those skills "inside" you.  Many of us know what we DON'T want to do, but without giving ourselves outside information, we may not know what TO DO instead. Hence the value of parenting classes." Good for you all for being willing to gather outside information:) One more thing, for any of you, that are still reading, please facebook me if you want to get more parenting articles, thoughts, video clips as I use facebook mainly to share parenting resources (well, I also enjoy seeing what friends and family are up to!) 

Happy Holidays to all of you!

Andrea

On Mon, Dec 16, 2013 at 8:07 AM, Debbie Godfrey <debbie@positiveparenting.com> wrote:

December 16, 2013 | Web Version Parent,     I thought you might be like many moms (or dads!) and think that you don't have the time to listen to the recording about dealing with power struggles.   I have a great idea for you, listen to it with your kids!  You may be like some parents and think that if your kids find out your "secrets" than they will somehow use that information against you.  I have found the exact opposite to be true!  When my kids were little, I often watched the parenting videos and even read some paragraphs out of the book out loud to them.  They often understand EXACTLY the idea behind these tools and why they work.  They often respect us even more for trying to be a better parent!   If you have already listened to the recording, GREAT JOB and I'd love to hear from you!  Send me an email. Let me know your feedback about the workshop and any questions or comments you may have.  I especially love to hear success stories of how you use these ideas with your kids.   Happy Parenting!   Debbie Godfrey Positive Parenting debbie@positveparenting.com (805) 648-6846 If you no longer wish to receive our emails, click the link below: Unsubscribe Positive Parenting Po Box 612 Ojai, California 93024 United States (805) 648-6846

L & L Session 5 : The Energy Drain Thurs 930AM at Springmont

Hi parents!
Sadly it's already our last Love and Logic session tomorrow, Dec 12th 930 AM, at the Springmont library. The title of this final session is: "What to Do When Your Kids Leave you Speechless." We will go over the Strategic Planning Session, and the Energy Drain parenting tools. I know Michelle, who is on a Safari in Africa, and Julie, who is at Disney with her family, cannot make it to our last session, but I hope the rest of you can! Also if arrive early, there is a book fair going on so peruse the new books...maybe do a little holiday shopping.

» Parents who take the time to put together successful strategic training sessions say the same thing:
"It's amazing! Now my kids are busy watching what I will do....instead of me being busy stressing over what they will do!"«

Remember, If a child is old enough to Remember a promise, he or she is old enough for Delayed Consequences.
Example: With empathy say: "This is so sad. I'm going to have to do something about this. We'll talk later."

Another option, which I learned last April, in Atlanta, from Charles Fay's talk: "Wow, I've never seen that before (chuckle). Hmm, I am going to do something about that but not sure what. Try not to worry."

> Please review your workbook, page 49 for full description of a strategic training session and page 55 for description of Energy Drain. <
{I have a great L & L cd by Jim Fay on the Energy Drain parenting strategy~ please let me know if you would like me to make you a copy!}

As always, the recipe for success is a healthy does of empathy First followed by an appropriate consequence (if don't have one, delay the consequence or say 'oh, man, when you lie to me, it really drains my energy or when you fight with you siblings, or keep whining/ arguing / being sassy, I lose my energy') then Let the consequence do the teaching or the screaming (as Screamfree parenting suggests as well!). We want our kids THINKING more than we are....

See you in the am! Please Keep your email updates coming. I love hearing how things are going.
Cheers,
Andrea

Andrea L Gooldy, M.S.
Parent Educator, Coach and Workshop Facilitator
Independent Love and Logic Facilitator 'Early Childhood Parenting Made Fun!'
Certified Screamfree Parenting Leader AndreaParentCoach@gmail.com www.andreaparentcoach.com