The Basics of the Love and Logic Approach

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To receive email from Love and Logic Institute, Inc., add reply@loveandlogicnews.com to your safe sender list. View as Web Page Subscribe Send to a Friend Love and Logic Institute, Inc. Helping Raise Responsible Kids Since 1977™ The Basics of the Love and Logic Approach Weekly Tip from the Love and Logic® Experts Dear Andrea,   When you tell people you use Love and Logic techniques in your home or classroom, do they really know what "Love and Logic" means?   Do some think it is a cult you joined?   Do some say that "Love AND Logic" is an oxymoron?   Do you sometimes find it difficult to explain?   With a flexible menu of skills in our approach, and common sense at work, adults using Love and Logic skills may come across quite differently at times. Nevertheless, the "Love and Logic" approach should always look like the following: A loving attitude toward the young person. A key principle of the Love and Logic approach is that we preserve the dignity - of the child AND the adult. Does yelling and threatening preserve kids' dignity? How about ours? Shared thinking and control. Adults using Love and Logic techniques resist the urge to come up with all the answers and solve all the problems. Instead, they give kids the gift of thinking about and solving problems. They ask lots of questions and give lots of choices so kids stay in on the action. Empathy before consequences and bad news. We are sad for kids and we hurt for them when they struggle. Our sadness (instead of our anger and frustration) helps them own problems and learn from the consequences. None of this works without empathy. Relationships are paramount. If we are not preserving or enhancing relationships, we are not really using Love and Logic techniques. Take heart! This is a process, not an instant transformation. Many people find that listening repeatedly to our audio, Four Steps to Responsibility, helps them remember to consistently apply these very important basics of the Love and Logic approach.   Thanks for reading. Our goal is to help as many families as possible. If this is a benefit, forward it to a friend.   Jedd Hafer     ©2012 Love and Logic Institute, Inc. All copyright infringement laws apply. Permission granted for forwarding and/or for a single photocopy or electronic reproduction of one email tip only. Please do not alter or modify. For more information, call the Love and Logic Institute, Inc. at 800-338-4065.         For helpful tips, special promotions, and event announcements, follow Love and Logic® on Twitter and become a fan on Facebook.   If we have misspelled your name, or if this isn't you, please click here to correct.   Teachers and Parents Don't miss Dr. Charles Fay in Redding, CA on Saturday, 2/4 or in Baltimore, MD on Tuesday, 2/7. Register online or call 800-338-4065 for more information.     Exclusive Member Discount   Four Steps to Responsibility This week save 25%   Discount price to Insider Club members only: $10.46 Regular Price $13.95   To shop our online store click on the link above, then "Add to Cart" and enter the coupon code "020212"     2012 Summer Conference Love and Logic: For Home, for School, for Life!
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