FMSA Love and Logic morning class dates
Time : 9:30-11:30am
Dates: Weds Oct 26th, Nov 2nd, Nov 9th, Nov 16th, and Nov 30th.
Location: First Montessori School of Atlanta Library Conf Room
5750 Long Island Drive, NW Atlanta, GA 30327
Cost : $90 including workbook
Session 1: Weds Oct 26th "Handling Misbehavior Without Breaking A Sweat."
Session 2: Weds Nov 2nd "Teaching Kids to Listen....The FIRST Time."
Session 3: Weds Nov 9th
"Avoiding Power Struggles."
Session 4: Weds Nov 16th
"Limits Create Happier Parents, Happier Kids, And Happier Families."
Session 5: Weds Nov 30th
"What To Do When Your Kids Leave You Speechless."
It's back to school and back to the RUSH ~ rushing to get ready for school, getting meals made, then before you know it, it's already time to get ready for bed! Yikes! Talk about Groundhog's Day everyday....How are we supposed to enjoy parenting with all these daily hassles? To find out, come join me for the Love and Logic Early Childhood Parenting Made Fun! Course, at my son's school, First Montessori School of Atlanta (FMSA). FMSA is located in the heart of Sandy Springs, off of Mt Vernon Rd on Long Island Drive.
The class begins this Weds Oct 26th at 930am. I am delighted to be facilitating this powerful parenting course again. It allows me the opportunity to educate, empower and connect parents, especially moms, to be the best parents we can be! In order to be successful in our complicated, rapidly changing world, we have to create our own Parent Villages to gather resources, gain support and learn effective techniques that are often very different from what worked for our parents. Knowledge is power!
Cheers ~
Andrea
Andrea L Gooldy, M.S. Parent Educator, Parent Coach & Workshop Facilitator Independent Love and Logic Facilitator 'Early Childhood Parenting Made Fun!' Certified Screamfree Parenting Leader AndreaParentCoach@gmail.com 404-932-9393 Check out the latest on my Blog! www.andreaparentcoach.com
Sunday, October 23, 2011
Tuesday, August 30, 2011
Be Funny! Tell a Joke to your child today:D
And encourage your child to tell you one thus building his or her sense of humor. Even if we laugh one more time per day or just laugh once, it's a start. Guessing for most of us parents, giggling is for kids, not us! Have we forgotten how to laugh? I sometimes think I have! I am amazed by how cracking a joke, especially at ourselves, lightens the mood, allows us "adults" to take ourselves less seriously, decreases stress and distracts from the day's challenges. Chris and I have such FUN laughing at Christopher's own laughter at his made up silly knock-knock jokes, which he often just copies from the ones we read from: "Super Incredible! Knock-Knock Jokes for Kids" by Bob Phillips. I bought this book at FMSA's book fair last year. Best purchase! I highly recommend buying a children's joke book. We often read at the dinner table to make more enjoyable for everyone!
As I've told big Chris for years, if just one person laughs at a joke or witty comment, even if it's the one who said it like myself, then gosh darn it, it's funny! That's my story and I'm sticking to it. So let me know who has told a joke today, or has been goofy and spread some laughter.....watch out, it's contagious:D In addition to telling knock-knock jokes, try Wii Dance for Kids for instant goofiness.
Another way to find humor in our lives is to keep track of the funny things we do in our daily routine and share with our kiddies. Yes, we'll have to let them in on that secret that we're not perfect and we make mistakes too. A couple of weeks ago Christopher asked if adults made mistakes like kids do. So since then I have been trying to share ones I made at his age such as ending up in the boys bathroom instead of the girls in 1st grade, on my first day at the school, because I was following the boy in front of me! And last week when I put my hair smoothing product on my face instead of my hair, thinking it was my moisturizer. Not really that funny but I did pause and smile thinking silly mommy, always multitasking.
As usual, added more than just info on the knock-knock jokes! Yes, miss detailed over here. I'll leave you with one of my favorite knock-knock jokes from the above book:
"Knock, Knock
Who's there?
Muffin
Muffin who?
Muffin ventured, nothing gained!"
Yes cheesy but hopefully got a chuckle from you!
Tuesday, August 2, 2011
ScreamFree Parenting: Beating the Bulge without Creating a Battle
Beating the Bulge without Creating a Battle
Tuesday, February 23, 2010
By: Jenny Runkel - www.screamfree.com
Beating Food Battles and Creating Healthy Kids
Michelle Obama's "Let's Go" campaign is tackling one of America's biggest problems - no pun intended. America's kids are less active and more rotund than ever, and it's threatening the very lives of humanity's future. With skyrocketing child obesity rates, this "battle" is nothing to be taken lightly. And, it definitely seems like the food producers are on the kids' side. Whether it's the junk food that lines the aisles of Kroger, fills the Nickelodeon commercials, or populates the McDonald's kids' menus, parents and healthy nutrition seem to have the odds stacked against them.
So, with all of that noted, it's easy for us as parents to gear up for battle, right? If it's a true, never-ending battle you seek, then go right ahead. Prepare for war. But if it's a great relationship with your kids you really want, a relationship filled with mutual respect in which both parents and children naturally choose, on their own, to take an interest in their own nutrition, then prepare for a different path altogether.
I, of course, call it the ScreamFree Path. The first step is learning to calm our parental anxiety and recognize a few certain truths about this issue. They are:
Food battles are more about parent/child dynamics than they are about nutrition. Parents allowing the whimsical tests from their kids to dictate their own demeanor and behavior are falling prey not to their kids' immaturity, but to their own. Calm down and accept your position as the grownup here. If you don't first accept it, then your kids never will.
No child under 10 has ever voluntarily starved him/herself to death instead of eating vegetables. Yes, eating disorders are serious diseases among teenagers and their families. They are a highly developed condition centering on enormous battles of will between children and their parents and their body image. But that's not what we're talking about here. We're talking about young children beginning to eat healthy food choices. And while it may be tough for you to allow your kid to go hungry, relax; he won't do it for long. The question is whether his hunger will speak louder to him than your anxiety. If it does, then he'll eat. If not, then you'll need to deal with the next truth…
Parents anxiously needing their kids to eat the dinner they "slaved over" will always be wondering why their kids don't respect them. Wanting our kids to respect us and others comes naturally. But, needing them to respect us, appreciate us, and validate all of our efforts is a recipe for disaster. You know what people respect? Self-validation. We respect, and long to follow and learn from, leaders who exude a calm confidence and invite others to join them along a path of new discovery. Leaders who still follow that path even if we refuse that invitation. Our kids are begging us to lead them like that in all areas of life, including the arena of food.
Parents can never expect their kids to eat a healthier diet than they do. Some of you may want to stop reading right here. But just like with our money habits, our eating habits are far more influential than our words of instruction. Kids can spot double-standards from a mile away, and they certainly won't follow someone they can't trust. If we want our kids to exercise self-regulation and healthy exploration in their eating, then we first must do so ourselves. Try and go a week focusing more on your own habits than your kids'. Only then will you be humbled enough to exercise this next truth…
Parents must learn to both restrict and respect their kids' choices. The principle here is to calmly acknowledge that our kids have choices in life, and it is our job to help them become good decision-makers. That is not the same thing as making them eat their veggies. It is a matter of listening to and observing their preferences, offering them a balance of things they already like and things they haven't tried, while highlighting the consequences of their choices.
None of these truths offer a magic prescription, but that's because there is no such thing. I know that is really frustrating for parents who are mired in the battle of the bulge, but remember, you are hoping to create self-directed adults who choose, on their own, to be healthy. By committing yourself to a ScreamFree Path, you will begin to see that the food battle itself is the real villain, and the relationship we have with our kids is the victim when we engage. So, choose your path carefully, because a strong, vital relationship will go a long way towards creating the healthy patterns you desire.
Tuesday, February 23, 2010
By: Jenny Runkel - www.screamfree.com
Beating Food Battles and Creating Healthy Kids
Michelle Obama's "Let's Go" campaign is tackling one of America's biggest problems - no pun intended. America's kids are less active and more rotund than ever, and it's threatening the very lives of humanity's future. With skyrocketing child obesity rates, this "battle" is nothing to be taken lightly. And, it definitely seems like the food producers are on the kids' side. Whether it's the junk food that lines the aisles of Kroger, fills the Nickelodeon commercials, or populates the McDonald's kids' menus, parents and healthy nutrition seem to have the odds stacked against them.
So, with all of that noted, it's easy for us as parents to gear up for battle, right? If it's a true, never-ending battle you seek, then go right ahead. Prepare for war. But if it's a great relationship with your kids you really want, a relationship filled with mutual respect in which both parents and children naturally choose, on their own, to take an interest in their own nutrition, then prepare for a different path altogether.
I, of course, call it the ScreamFree Path. The first step is learning to calm our parental anxiety and recognize a few certain truths about this issue. They are:
Food battles are more about parent/child dynamics than they are about nutrition. Parents allowing the whimsical tests from their kids to dictate their own demeanor and behavior are falling prey not to their kids' immaturity, but to their own. Calm down and accept your position as the grownup here. If you don't first accept it, then your kids never will.
No child under 10 has ever voluntarily starved him/herself to death instead of eating vegetables. Yes, eating disorders are serious diseases among teenagers and their families. They are a highly developed condition centering on enormous battles of will between children and their parents and their body image. But that's not what we're talking about here. We're talking about young children beginning to eat healthy food choices. And while it may be tough for you to allow your kid to go hungry, relax; he won't do it for long. The question is whether his hunger will speak louder to him than your anxiety. If it does, then he'll eat. If not, then you'll need to deal with the next truth…
Parents anxiously needing their kids to eat the dinner they "slaved over" will always be wondering why their kids don't respect them. Wanting our kids to respect us and others comes naturally. But, needing them to respect us, appreciate us, and validate all of our efforts is a recipe for disaster. You know what people respect? Self-validation. We respect, and long to follow and learn from, leaders who exude a calm confidence and invite others to join them along a path of new discovery. Leaders who still follow that path even if we refuse that invitation. Our kids are begging us to lead them like that in all areas of life, including the arena of food.
Parents can never expect their kids to eat a healthier diet than they do. Some of you may want to stop reading right here. But just like with our money habits, our eating habits are far more influential than our words of instruction. Kids can spot double-standards from a mile away, and they certainly won't follow someone they can't trust. If we want our kids to exercise self-regulation and healthy exploration in their eating, then we first must do so ourselves. Try and go a week focusing more on your own habits than your kids'. Only then will you be humbled enough to exercise this next truth…
Parents must learn to both restrict and respect their kids' choices. The principle here is to calmly acknowledge that our kids have choices in life, and it is our job to help them become good decision-makers. That is not the same thing as making them eat their veggies. It is a matter of listening to and observing their preferences, offering them a balance of things they already like and things they haven't tried, while highlighting the consequences of their choices.
None of these truths offer a magic prescription, but that's because there is no such thing. I know that is really frustrating for parents who are mired in the battle of the bulge, but remember, you are hoping to create self-directed adults who choose, on their own, to be healthy. By committing yourself to a ScreamFree Path, you will begin to see that the food battle itself is the real villain, and the relationship we have with our kids is the victim when we engage. So, choose your path carefully, because a strong, vital relationship will go a long way towards creating the healthy patterns you desire.
Sunday, July 31, 2011
Positive Discipline ~ The Power of Hugs
Hi L & L Class,
Believe Paula has the Positive Discipline tool cards on her iphone. Paula, have you been using them at all? Thought I would pass along the below as I find giving Christopher a hug, even when he's being not very sweet, or my asking for a hug, has been very effective in calming both of us and/or diffusing a power struggle. As well as preventing several meltdowns.
Believe Paula has the Positive Discipline tool cards on her iphone. Paula, have you been using them at all? Thought I would pass along the below as I find giving Christopher a hug, even when he's being not very sweet, or my asking for a hug, has been very effective in calming both of us and/or diffusing a power struggle. As well as preventing several meltdowns.
Paula, hugging might be an option for Jack during his recent "out of sorts" / transition times. Kristen, I thought immediately of your using the hug tool with Ansley, even when you feel she might be bullying / bothering her baby brother as described . And teaching Ansley to say something similar to "I need attention" when she's close to a tantrum, is overwhelmed, etc.
Please let me know if anyone of you give a hug or ask for a hug during a challenging situation! Andrea
Another Hug Story
by Jane Nelsen (including podcast with Beth Whitehead)
Some of you may know that a "Hug" is one of my favorite Positive Discipline Tools. During this podcast you will understand why as I interview Beth Whitehead after she sent me the following success story.
Dear Jane,
As you may remember, I had a situation with my older daughter (3 yrs old) taking toys away from our littler one (1 1/2 years). My new behavior was to try hugging the older one when she was being a bully. SO, something came up today that I really wanted to share:
I was past my patience level and almost yelling at Eden (3) to go sit on the couch, rather than staying underfoot as I was loading the dryer and hassling her little sister for some reason or another. She was also crying and possibly about to tantrum. I stopped and just hugged her, as we discussed. It was PERFECT! She stopped crying & whining. And then SHE suggested we hug the little one. I didn't have to do anything else.
Another quick story: Eden was in full tantrum on a different occasion and I thought back to our exercise of asking for a hug. That worked, too! It totally diffused the situation and she calmed down.
Also, I taught my daughter to say, "I need attention" when she just needs a hug or for me to stop doing whatever I am doing. It works so well and is so much better than my getting annoyed and not noticing that she needs me to stop and pay her more attention.
I feel like I am finally on my way to really helping my babies feel understood. Thank you for all you do Jane!!
Very Sincerely,
Beth
Monday, May 23, 2011
Where's Your Village?
"They say it Takes a Village to Raise a Child, but no one ever tells you where it is or how to get there." - Shoebox by Hallmark
Joining a parenting class, whether my Love and Logic or ScreamFree Parenting, gives you your much needed Village!
Wednesday, May 18, 2011
Positive Discipline : Agreements
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| Agreements - A Positive Discipline Tool Card Posted: 16 May 2011 02:02 PM PDT  Involvement=cooperation. Children will usually keep their agreements when they have been respectfully involved in creating the agreements, which requires several steps. The reason for the word "usually" will be discussed later. 1. Sit down together during a calm time (not at the time of conflict) and have a respectful discussion about the issue that requires an agreement. It is important to wait until everyone has calmed down before a rational discussion can be achieved. 2. During the discussion time, be sure that everyone has an opportunity to share his or her thoughts and feelings about the issue. Interruptions are not allowed when someone is sharing. Some families use a three minute sand flow timer. The person who is sharing can have the whole three minutes, or can stop before his or her time is up by saying so. The person or people listening are not allowed to defend, explain, or give their opinion until it is their turn. 3. Brainstorming comes only after everyone has had a chance to share. Make brainstorming fun where any suggestion is written down—no matter how wild or crazy. Do not give opinions about brainstorm ideas. This is not the time for discussion. Just get lots of ideas written down on paper. It is a good idea to focus on solutions. 4. During agreement time, it is okay to discuss the pros and cons of each brainstormed idea. You might start by asking:
5. Hopefully there will be some suggestions left. Choose one that everyone can agree to. 6. If appropriate, choose an exact time for completion of the agreement. For example, if your daughter agreed to mow the lawn, negotiate for a time that works for both of you. 7. When an agreement isn't kept, respectfully ask, "What was our agreement?" Read on to discover why this may be necessary. The reason children "usually" keep their agreements when they have been respectfully involved. Children are children. Even when they really do intend to keep their agreements, they don't have the same priorities as adults. They may intend to mow the lawn, but since it is not high on their priority list, it may be "forgotten." How often do you get to the items you should do, but that are not high on your list of priorities? Since having the lawn mowed is high on your priority list, and since you have respectfully involved your child in creating an agreement, which included a specific deadline; it is okay to respectfully ask your child, "What was our agreement?" If these steps don't promote successful agreement, start again from the top. During step two you may discover the reasons—and you will be giving everyone an opportunity to keep learning from mistakes. |
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Tuesday, May 17, 2011
Love and Logic Parenting Tip: Frustrated Preschoolers
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To receive email from Love and Logic Institute, Inc., add reply@loveandlogicnews.com to your safe sender list. View as Web Page Subscribe Send to a Friend Love and Logic Institute, Inc. Helping Raise Responsible Kids Since 1977™ When Preschoolers Get Frustrated Dear Andrea, Have you ever noticed how frustrated many small children get when they try to do something "big" and it doesn't work out? One parent commented to me, "Every time my three-year-old has trouble putting on her socks, reaching the soap in the bathroom, getting her zipper zipped, or anything else, she throws a huge screaming fit." It has to be horribly frustrating for little ones to find themselves struggling to do things that just aren't working out! It's also frustrating for parents to hear the screaming! In our home, we've tried all sorts of ineffective techniques, such as trying to do it for them, bossing them around about how they should do the task, and even screaming about their screaming. The technique that works like a charm involves the following five steps: Step One: Empathize. "Oh, that must be so frustrating." Step Two: Hand the problem back to your child. "What do you think you are going to do?" Step Three: Ask for permission to share some ideas. "Would you like to hear what other kids have tried?" Step Four: Give them three or four simple ideas and ask, "How will that work for you?" "Some kids decide… How will that work for you?" Step Five: Allow them to learn through experimentation. "Good luck. If you need any more ideas, let me know." Just the other day, our three-year-old was screaming because his toy "digger" wasn't digging the hard dirt in the garden. After he heard some solutions and decided to try it in his sandbox instead, he smiled from ear to ear. I guess that works better than getting frustrated! For more information about this technique check out our CD, Four Steps to Responsibility. Our goal is to help as many families as possible. If this is a benefit, forward it to a friend. Have a happy and safe Thanksgiving! Dr. Charles Fay If we have misspelled your name, or if this isn't you, please click here to correct. ©2010 Love and Logic Institute, Inc. All copyright infringement laws apply. Permission granted for photocopy reproduction and forwarding. Please do not alter or modify contents. For more information, call the Love and Logic Institute, Inc. at 800-338-4065. For helpful tips, special promotions, and event announcements, follow Love and Logic® on Twitter and become a fan on Facebook. Teachers and Parents Don't miss Dr. Charles Fay in Des Moines on Tuesday, 11/30. Register online or call 800-338-4065 for more information. Exclusive Member Discount Four Steps to Responsibility This week save 25% Discount price to Insider Club members only: $10.45 Regular Price $13.95 To shop our online store click on the link above, then "Add to Cart" and enter the coupon code "112410" Parenting Classes Visit this page to find an independent facilitator that teaches Love and Logic classes in your area. "Funny Parenting Stories" and "Funny Stories from the Classroom": amusing audios available for your listening pleasure, compliments of Love and Logic®. Visit this page to download and enjoy. Love and Logic Institute, Inc. • 800-338-4065 2207 Jackson St • Golden • CO • 80401 Shop Our Store | Visit Our Website | Forward to a Friend | Edit Your Profile | Subscribe Unsubscribe | Report Spam
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